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Are you thinking about contacting your ex today?
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Well me too.
...but I'm not going to and here is why. I am no longer going to give her the satisfaction and power of being someone that can just come back to me whenever she wants. I am not a backup plan and neither should y'all be either. We are all in this sub for certain reasons. Some of us want to eventually make up with our exes, some of us just want our best friends back, and some of us never want to talk to them again. Whatever the reason is, remember the name of this sub and why we are here. We are seeking indifference. In the end in whatever final decision we have to make we want to be able to make that decision with a clear head. Don't let your ex cloud your head!
I have yet to see a story of a dumpee contacting the dumper and it working out in their favor. If they come back to you then you will have a hard decision to make, but let's not make ourselves look desperate today by contacting our exes! We are all in this together.
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The hard part for me is her contacting me. I'm almost 1 week of NC but then she will contact me. It's so hard for me to ignore her seeing as I have no one else to talk to. Me and my family aren't close so there is no support there and my friends either live too far or have their own lives so we've grown apart. With no support it's really hard for me to ignore her breadcrumbs.
I was forced to work with my ex today...
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A while ago, after our bad breakup, I let my ex know I needed space and wasn’t ready to be friends with her after she practically begged me to stay in her life. She broke up with me (we dated 3 years). I’ve seen her around school with her new boyfriend yet she texts me pretty often saying she misses having me in her life. She also randomly texts me inside jokes we used to have or memes she knows would make me laugh. I don’t respond to her texts because I made it clear to her I needed space.
We work for the same company but she works at a different site. Today, we were short staffed and called other sites to get help. Knowing I work where I work, she volunteered to pick up the shift. I knew she picked it up to see me because when we were together (recently) she always wanted LESS hours, and would never pick up a shift like that. She knew this would be the chance for me to be forced to talk to her. I talked to my coworkers about the situation and my manager was sweet enough to have us working at different ends of the store. However, there were a few times I had to go over to where she was working to help her ring up customers. The first thing she said to me, I shit you not, was “So I started playing tennis again”... When she went on her lunch, I had to cover the register for her. She came up to me when she was on her lunch telling me she wasn’t going to eat anything, so she was going to talk to me instead. I had to stay at the register and she just would not stop talking about herself. I couldn’t get myself to make eye contact and I’m not sure why??
It pisses me off that I told her I need space and she won’t respect that. I really felt no interest in hearing what she had to say about herself. I felt no interest in keeping her in my life. She just feels like a burden now. It’s crazy how only a month ago, I couldn’t see myself without her. I was so deep in love with her. I was devastated. But now I feel free and independent. And I’m indifferent about having her in my life. Even though the situation was shitty, it made me realize she wasn’t what I had wanted. My coworkers, who I’m pretty close with continuously talked shit about her and surprisingly it didn’t bother me. They said I could do so much better. I’m confused because I don’t feel completely over her, I can’t even look her in the eye, but I don’t really seem to care about what’s going on with her.
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thats definitely progress fam, and good for you for not putting up with those previous antics
Today, my ex cashed a check I wrote over 2 years ago, for a second time (my bank honored 2 years ago as well). My bank is being unhelpful. What is the best legal course of action?
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I am in Maryland, USA, for reference.
A little over 2 years ago I wrote a check, which was cashed shortly after. Today, I saw that the same check was deposited to the same account.
I called my bank and because I wrote the check to the intended person and it was indeed my signature on the bottom my claim wasn't considered fraud or forgery. I insisted that she look in my history because I remember seeing the same black & white image of the check before. She told me there was no such record of the check being cashed and the only thing I could do at this point was submit a research request.
I continued to ask her about the stale date period and she said that it is at any bank's discretion to honor an old check. I asked her, for future reference, if I should put expiration date to protect myself. She connected me with a second customer service representative.
Representative #2 told me that after 6 months a check is stale dated and that they don't fulfill stale dated checks, directly contradicting Representative #1.
I was connected to another Representative #3 and I was told that I had to wait for the results of my research request (5 business days). I insisted that I have proof on my bank statement that it was deposited 2 years ago.
The problem was brought to a senior specialist who was able to confirm that itwas a duplicate deposit. I told him about my frustration regarding misinformation from different representatives. Then he tells me that 1. my ex deposited the check twice because it may have been returned to him at that bank or 2. it was a clerical error at a bank. I asked him if I was guaranteed to get my money back after the research was completed and he said no. I would only get my money back if my ex's bank agreed to give the money back. I asked him to show me proof regarding a contract I signed that said that I don't care about any bank activity that dates over 2 years ago (on a rolling basis) and he was unable to give me that.
Do I have no choice but to absorb the DUPLICATE amount?
Isn't either my ex, his bank, or my bank liable for this?
Should I call the police and report check fraud?
Any help would be appreciated.
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IANAL and this is not legal advice.
I am in banking compliance.
You have some protections under UCC 3 & 4. I believe you have protections under holder in due course.
I would start by filing a error resolution claim with your bank in writing. You need to be specific with what happened and please either deliver it in person or mail it certified.
Your bank is obligated to investigate. If the investigation will take longer than 10 days they will likely give you a provisional credit if they haven't already resolved the issue by then.
It sounds like your bank is trying to push liability onto the depositing institution, which I believe is wrong. It is your bank's liability and they are ultimately responsible for not double clearing a check.
A check is ultimately a contract between two parties for payment within the terms of the check. You fulfilled the obligations under that contract when the check previously cleared. If they do anything other than refund you the money, I'd hire a lawyer. Your bank could be liable for your attorney costs as well as the amount of the check.
My girlfriend's ex messaged her today.
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So me and my girlfriend have been together about six months, and today she texts me, asking me to call her if I'm not at work yet. When I do, she very openly tells me that her ex just sent her some messages saying that he still has feelings for her, and then just starts talking about his current partner. I'm very trusting with her, things like this actually make that easy, because she told me, and then said that she just blocked him once he started saying she should leave me and move to where he lives a few hours away. They haven't dated in years, but remained friends, and I've had no problem with that because I have an ex that I am friends with, things just didn't work out, and we mutually decided anything romantic wasn't in the cards for us. My ex actually hangs out with my current girlfriend, and I'll hang out with her husband. It's very comfortable, nobody is awkward with it, so there isn't any kind of problem I can see.
What upsets me about this situation, more than jealousy, is they what her ex is doing is very disrespectful to her. She had told him that she is with someone, and she is happy, and he played along like he was glad for her, until today. I feel like he is telling her that she is his back up plan with these actions, and she is second fiddle to his life. Adding on the disrespect he has shown our relationship with that, my girlfriend has asked me to call him and ask him to stop contacting her, because he started texting her when she blocked him on Facebook messenger. I said I think it should come from her first, and if it continues, then I'll give him a call.
I've never found actions like this appropriate, acceptable, justified. I'm really upset, but at the same time, it won't help for me to act angry around my SO while she is still stressing about it, and upset in her own right. So I'm just ranting here, where its nice and anonymous. Idk if my feeling are out of line or not, it's just how I feel while this is all fresh. Seriously though, fuck that guy.
Top Comment: Even if your gf does call him I think that you should as well. It shows that you and your gf are on the same page and that you have your gf's back
Worst ex ever (released today)
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Episode 1: Just once I'd like to hear about police doing their job properly, putting away a guy like this BEFORE he can keep attempting to murder every single woman he has a relationship with. For police to make a heavily bleeding woman spend 18 hours in jail because they believe HIM over HER is fucking disgusting and so obviously racist, I hope she sued that police department.
Top Comment: Totally agree. I’m only on the second episode and I’m like fuck these cops and prosecutors. Could have named the show: getting railroaded by law enforcement.
I ran into my ex wife today...
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It' was my one day off in weeks (aside from Thanksgiving which wasn't really a day off I was on the move all day helping my family get dinner ready and playing with the kiddos) and I decided to go for a walk to my favorite diner for lunch well I stopped into the little store a block down from my house and grab a peppermint hot chocolate and while I was in line to order I get tapped on the shoulder, I turn around and it was my ex wife.. We ended in a lot of heartbreak and regret about two and a half years ago, actually about a year ago she had broke up with her boyfriend to move back to our home state and immediately contacted me upon getting back.
We talked over FB for a couple days until we got into an argument and stopped talking. Before today I had heard she moved her boyfriend she split up with halfway across the country to live with her at her mother's house up here and they have been living in a run down camper with no vehicle and both are working minimum wage jobs. ( Idk why she's working at Walgreens she was working for a designer clothing store making very very good money in management while we were together and I know they would have taken her back for sure.)
Anyway I was shocked to see her as I live about 40 miles away now and just didn't expect her, she said "oh my god hi! I thought that was you! You look so good!" And I'm not gonna lie she looked good as well so I told her the same, and just because I'm that type of person I made it more awkward my instantly asking her how her boyfriend is, she kinda blushes and says "well we still live together at my mom's but we are having issues, I caught him red handed flirting with multiple girls at his work, customers not coworkers.."
When her and I were together we were completely loyal we didn't need anyone else, and the sex was always top notch lol. So we continued to catch up on little things for a couple minutes until our orders came out the cue the awkward hug that turned intimate very quickly.. I'm not gonna lie I started to crave her badly, none of the girls I have dated since could do what she did for me and I could tell it was the same for her.. I went to say bye and she asked me what I was doing so I told her "there's this diner down the street and they make this Mexican pizza that is extremely delicious!" And I couldnt help myself so I invited her to come along lol.
She didn't not hesitate to accept my offer so we walked and talked out way to the diner about a block and a half away, and she kept dropping subtle hints that she wanted to keep hanging out asking what my plans were for the day and informing me that her mother was going to be in the area until later that evening hanging out with her friend and she was so bored sitting there listening to them talk but she had to go with her mother as a designated driver blah blah blah lol..
At this point I felt like she stalked me and planned to find me while she was out here. So I told her its my day off and I planned on just enjoying it. While we were eating lunch she asked me "is it too forward to ask if I can hang out with you for the day? Maybe go back to your place and watch a movie like old times?" Like I said before I was craving her so obviously I told her hells yes. So I quickly paid the bill and we almost jogged back to my place we were walking so fast because we both knew what was going to happen when we got through my door, we literally spent all afternoon in my bedroom, Ive got to say it was amazing!
Well about an hour ago her mother called her (she told her mother she was going to spend the day at the movie theater watching movies) and asked her where she was, curious because the last showing was at 7 lol. So she told her that she ran into an old friend and she would be there soon, well obviously I wasn't going to let her walk back there at night especially as cold as it is RN so I gave her a ride and tried to drop her off without being noticed but that failed (her mother loves me anyway) her mom had a huge smile and instantly commented on the hickeys on my neck lol.
Idk guys I really feel like her and I are meant for each other we split up over stupid shit and I hate how she's living right now she deserves so much better. I am supposed to pick her up after work tomorrow and I am really considering having that talk with her but idk if I should wait or not.. waiting could make her feel like I don't want that but rushing could make her feel pressured and I have never been one to rush into anything. I think it may be best to just keep hanging out with her for now and let her ask me but still make her feel welcome to stay whenever she wants.. I'd like to know what people think I should do. And thank you for reading this whole post I know it's long as hell lol..
Edit: sorry for the confusion I'm exhausted so I forgot to write the rest of her relationship status, her and the guy she was dating are split up, they live together because he is stuck until he gets enough money saved up to move back down south, she didn't cheat she would never cheat and I would never knowingly help someone cheat.
Top Comment: Well she’s cheating now and you’re the AP. Is this the path you want to continue down? Ask yourself why you actually went through with the divorce to begin with. If you had wanted to be with her, things would’ve worked out the first time. Are you sure she’s not trying to get back together with you for more stability so she can move out from her mothers house? I noticed you posted you have a son, is that with your ex wife?
SQ lost today Hopefully Ex ssga serve them another lost
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Let’s Go LG
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My JW Story- Disassociation and Today's Thoughts ( Want Ex Jw Opinions and thoughts on this)
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Hi,
I am new to the Forum it is my first post. I have a dilemma nowadays and I just wanted to share my story and hear some thoughts from anyone who is understanding my situation. So...
I was not raised JW I have no Family members inside JW. I hear about JW when I was 19 by a colleague at my Job. Good Guy. I Respect him until today and I ASKED him to go with him at the meeting. I was fascinated by the love they show me at the begging and decided to take a Bible study with an elder of his cong. I was having ( and have until today) a tough life. Divorced Parents, No relationship with parents, Drug abuse, Alcohol Abuse, Street life and I saw this as a very very big opportunity for me to change my life. I started making changes and I believed the doctrine for 2 years, because all the changes I made Were beneficial for me I did not bothered with the doctrine so much at that time. By the time I turned 21 I had got Baptized and I had 2 bible studies myself and doing great at JW. All the problems for me started Just after I got Baptized. I was pushed to do things for the con , giving the mics, doing parts, doing security in kingdom Hall, and 3 months After I was Baptized, I started meeting another Jw girl, we was going for marriage but the elders in my con and her con played a major role for this to fail. Except all this, after I got Baptized the brothers Ignored me and went hot on the next guy that was going to Baptize. The brothers were cold, The things with the girl I wanted to marry broke, and an elder had promised me a better job in this company and he never fulfilled his promise. I was hearing things for jw from other people, I search the things I was supposed to search before I got Baptized and say " Okey now we are screwd" I started doing drugs again and Disassociate myself with bad way. Just after I left I stated a real relationship with a Brothers daughter that was Unbaptized witness and this made my relations with the con even harder. Okey in 2022 December I was out. Meeen that was the story but Here now are my today's thoughts on JW. After I left I started using again, I went in and out of rehab 3 times. It is real tough for me to deal with my Abuse. And I am thinking on going back to JW . Why? Cause this limits that I Had as a JW actually helped me in a lot of aspects of my life. I don't believe in the doctrine, I don't believe in the good heart of all Brothers, Some of them are really bad, But some of them are really good and helpful people. But I believe in the way of life of JW for my Life to keep me out of drugs and out of these troubles, and One other reason Is, I Am turning 27 yo now, I want to marry a good Girl with principles and good heart that Is very hard to find this on the outside of JW from my personal Experience. Just go back go the meetings once a week make some night outs with some Brothers, have near me people that do not smoke, do not using, and the hope for a good marriage to start a family, even if I don't believe in the doctrine, what's your thoughts about this ?
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It sounds like a terrible foundation for a marriage and raising kids.
Datamine today?
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If it is Black and White, my interest is a little lukewarm about it, before NC Silver were NC Rosa/Nate.
Unless they're another Unova Support, I don't think Unova needs more powerhouse units. Hoenn is the one that needs a little help, mostly a strong generic support.